Here you are at a very difficult time in your life. You have found yourself in an untimely pregnancy, and you aren’t quite sure which way to turn. There was the consideration of abortion, but you are past that, or this was never a choice for you.
There is the thought of having a family member raise the child, but the family may not know, or your parents are too old, and your siblings already have their families.
Adoption does not have to be a final goodbye, but only “see you later sweetheart, as I have sought out the best plan for your life. I will be in touch from time to time to see how you are doing and to let you know that I love you.”
That is open or Semi-open adoption. However, that may be too much for you to bear, and you would just as soon have no contact, the decision is now yours.
As you can see, adoption has changed in leaps and bounds since the old days when they use to take the baby away, and you would never see the child again. Society has realized that it is important for all of us to know where our roots started, what our genetic make up is. This is why you are seeing more and more open adoption. It is a practice among adoption professionals that is encouraged.
The options today are always left up to the birthmother or parents. Going into an open situation gives you the experience of sharing in the child’s life milestones, and always with regard to the privacy of the adopted parents, child and you. Closed as a choice can also let you continue with your life’s plans in the most confidential matter.
There is a choice…